marriage care

On Tuesday night I was asked by a friend, "do you and Rory ever fight?" The question made me laugh out loud. Yes. Yes we do fight. But I am never afraid of our fights. We work through them, they blow over, I get a good nap, we forgive and we're both good talkers.

Most important, we are both committed to work at our marriage. Because it is work. And worth every effort we put into it.

From an early age my mom used to tell me that she and my dad went to marriage counseling when I was two years old and that it was the best thing they ever did for their marriage. They were in the beginning stages of planting a mission start congregation and were confronted with a lot of hard stuff all at once.

As a result, I've never felt any stigma attached to seeking help for your marriage. Seeking help and guidance is going to be inevitable. I got married under the assumption that Rory and I would utilize counseling at some point. Not because we were that rocky from the start, but because that's just what married couples do. In fact, when I asked mom if I could share this story on my blog, her comment was, yes, of course, I actually really wish your dad and I had done more counseling at different seasons of our marriage.

Rory's folks are always encouraging us to attend every conference, seminar, workshop, or any offering that will help us build a stronger foundation. Because they, too, know that a good marriage does take time and effort and intention and there is always room to grow closer.

So, having said all that, our church is hosting a marriage conference. Just a Friday night and Saturday morning (April 27th and 28th), $39 per couple and the speakers are solid. Solid. I really can't wait.

The conference is called Good Love and you can find out all the details by clicking here. Look around the site, find yourself a babysitter, and grab that love of your life and come work on your marriage. I hope to see lots of you there!

quote of the day

This is a happy picture of Rory and I to offset the following conversation.

Becca: I really miss those lilacs we took out last spring.

Rory: Yeah, but the fence will go right where they were. They really did have to go.

Becca: I just wish we could have kept them.

Rory: Yeah. But wait. Do you even remember how all last summer and fall you kept at me to take them out? You were relentless. And now you're telling me you're sad that they're gone? We still have an entire hedge of lilacs.

(long pause)

Rory: Do you have any idea how hard it is to be married to a woman?

(longer pause)

Rory again: Is it so hard to be a woman?

and can you feel the love tonight?

Our cat Toonces, and our son Ivar have a very affectionate relationship. Every morning they greet each other this same way. I am pretty sure these pictures determine Ivar as the dominate species. Toonces never puts up a fight, though he will look at me after a while as if to say, "I'm a good cat. Now get me out from under this kid."

The two of them have adventures together. So many that it makes me relieved we have another human playmate on the way for Ivar. Afterall, meow is Ivar's best animal sound. Here on the ottoman Ivar is drumming on the side, and Toonces is trying to swat at his hands. After this they crawled into the bathroom where Toonces jumped in the tub and Ivar threw balls all around him...and at him.

And then later in the day, when they were reunited after nap time, they resumed their snuggle position. It always makes me start singing the Lion King, "can you feel the love tonight?" And to answer that lyric... I can. I really can.

things I think about

**can the department of transportation actually just start building two-lane round abouts without sending every American back to drivers ed? because no one in this country knows what lane to be in on a two-lane round about. single-lane round abouts are self-explanatory. but have you ever been on the round about in Richfield by Target? you might as well just sign yourself up for a good ol' side swiping.

**how many different kinds of public bathroom toilet paper dispensers are out there? and who in the midst of a building project decides which dispenser to purchase? and why are some public toilet paper dispensers so poor and dispensing toilet paper?

**did Press n Seal glad wrap ever win any awards when it came out? because it should have. every time I use it I stand in awe of this large step forward for mankind.

and that is what I am thinking about today.

leaf print easter eggs

We had my folks over on Saturday for blueberry waffles and easter egg dying. I was looking for a new and clever method to color our eggs and found this idea on the family fun website (anyone else adore that magazine?) So I called my mom and told her to bring her old pantyhose.

We wrapped our hard boiled eggs tightly with the leaves in place with hair ties. My mom was quite skeptical, but I made her try it with me. She did the three little leaves and I wrapped the evergreen.

And when she unwrapped her egg she found a delightful little white print of her leaves! I couldn't stop slugging her in the arm yelling, "it worked! it really worked!"

And as it turns out, all of mom's eggs turned out awesome. She was a natural with the pantyhose.

As for my eggs, my red egg was awesome and my evergreen eggs failed. This is LEAF printing...so find actual leaves. Not evergreen branches. This makes sense now, but at the time it was all one grand experiment, and the evergreen pattern seemed so lovely to me.

Since Saturday I have thought of all sorts of grocery items we could try. This was a very warm year for a Minnesota Easter. Odds are we won't have so much green vegetation next year, but parsley, cilantro, celery leaves and all sorts of other herbs or tiny lettuce leaves all seem like they might print nicely.