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I'm dropping out of facebook.

(Rory told me I should call this post, 'I kissed facebook goodbye.')

I have had a few different conversations this summer regarding facebook that have led me to think really hard about my relationship with this friend connector. And I've come up with two conclusions:

1. I'm just on it too much. I really want to be writing lately, but every time I sit down at my computer I think I'll just check facebook real quick, and suddenly I am lost in a sea of photo albums.

2. I use it as a companion when I am lonesome in Nebraska. And though this has been helpful at times, lately I've been wondering if it really is all that healthy to go to my computer when I am lonely. I think I probably just need to feel lonesome for a while. And then I need to go find actual breathing friends in my own community to build friendships with.

So this is goodbye to my 448 facebook friends. I'll miss your witty status updates and quiz results. Drop me a line at beccagroves(at)gmail(dot)com anytime. Or keep tabs on me here. I hope to be posting a bit more now that summer camp is almost over.

5 comments:

Shannon said...

I was wondering. I've been concerned about privacy issues and have thought about dropping fb myself. But how to share photos of the kiddos? I admire your quest to waste less time and have 'real' relationships. Nice work being intentional, Becca.

Shan

Becca Groves said...

Honestly, the picture sharing part was the hardest to depart from. I think I'm just going to have to go back to shutterfly albums. It was an odd process though...I had to manually delete every single thing on my page and even then they will not close my page down. I am just "deactivated with the opportunity to connect with friends again just by signing in." Basically, you can't delete your account. Good to know.

Rory Groves said...

http://www.flickr.com/

It took me about 5 minutes to create a new account and upload a few photos.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/40716855@N03

Just one of many, many options.

Beth said...

Facebook's loss is Blogspot's gain!

Erin-Thérèse said...

I did the same exact thing about a year ago---committed 'Facebook suicide.' I really respect your decision and you've made it for all the right reasons! I've have some people react negatively to my leaving Facebook, like it makes me a 'burden' because communicating with me/sharing pictures is now such a hassle....they might actually have to speak with me/write to me one-on-one.

I don't think this is a healthy place for relationships to be in. Facebook enables people to feel connected when they really aren't. It's like a relationship 'respirator' and a way for people to communicate without the 'hassle' of authentic communication...

I'm interested in the real people, not the facebook profiles and status updates about what you ate for lunch. I'm hoping that more people our age will learn that Facebook is an addiction not healthy to have---and just like you said, your time for doing REAL, worthwhile things just gets sucked away by it.

~Erin