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some thoughts on chickens

Two years ago we got broiler chicks that we raised, had butchered and then put in our deep freeze for a year of eating. (Remember this cheeky post introducing them?) What I remember is the first roast chicken we ate and how very quiet we were. There were a lot of things going through our heads, reconciling what we were consuming and deciding if we thought it tasted good.

We ate roast chicken a few more times and I began to really struggle. Our birds were really big when we had them processed because we couldn't get in on the ideal butchering date. So it was hard to cook them well. Parts of the bird were very done while the insides still weren't cooked through. 

The real low point was one night after we had a roast chicken for dinner, I went to a meeting and afterwards swung by Culver's and ordered chicken strips. I came home with my food and Rory was frustrated that I purchased chicken when we clearly had an entire chicken in the fridge. I told him plainly, "I wanted an anonymous bird." (Now one of our favorite quotes of all time.)

We basically stopped making roast chicken for a long time. 

Until earlier this summer when I was picking up garage sale signs with my friend Anne. I cannot remember how the topic of whole chicken preparation came up but she told me how her husband wants her to make a roast chicken and broth out of the carcass.  We bonded over our non-wasteful husbands and she said, "so I told him, I'll roast a chicken anytime as long as you take the meat off the bird. Then I'll make it into enchiladas and a casserole." It was a serious aha moment because I realized part of my problem with the chickens was taking the meat off the carcass. It's just not my thing. And then Anne continued, "and then I told him if he'd like to make the broth from the carcass I will leave it in the fridge, but I'm fine throwing it away." 

I came home and told Rory how Anne has worked this whole chicken thing out with her husband and he enthusiastically agreed to take the meat off the bird and either shred or cube it for me, depending on what I was going to use it in. And this changed everything! Each week since then we have roasted a bird. And then had great meals from that bird. And it's been delicious. We have become broiler chicken enthusiasts! Especially me!

The thing that actually solidified it for me was one day when I passed five semi trucks stuffed with white chickens. They were packed in there, feathers were flying all over the road and as I sat next to one truck at a stop light it hit me how ridiculous this site was. It felt so wrong. Anonymous birds are not happy birds. They have a terrible life. And the whole five semi system is just so unnatural. It was my brother who consoled me originally, two summer ago, saying that there was no happier life a chicken could hope for than one at the Grovestead. And it's true. They do live a happy, sunny, well fed, free range life, right up until their dying day... 

Then it's not so great for the chickens! But at least we know they had a great life. And we know exactly where they came from and what they've eaten and what they haven't been injected with.
So we're doing it again. We have eaten down the birds in the deep freeze all summer (we learned to flip the bird in the middle of baking, which helped cook it more evenly) and it's time to restock. So these sweet chicks have joined our family. Interestingly, this time around the kids know exactly what is going on. Elsie has said a few times, "I don't want to kill the chicks." And I tell her they'll be big chickens when they have to be processed, but it is a hard truth for her to understand. Yet it is how it works. I am glad my kids know where their food comes from. And since when she protests she usually has a chicken nugget in her mouth, I think she'll be fine in the end.

And you want to know what's next? Lamb. Rory announced this one last week. We are going to have one of our lambs processed so we can have lamb chops and gyros and a whole lot of Mediterranean food this winter. I said to Rory, "do we even know how to prepare lamb?!!" and he replied confidently, "you just google it. No big deal."

pam and peggy



My sister Annika and I are still in full swing cleaning our houses and figuring out systems that will work to keep things running smoothly this school year. Last week we met at our folks' house before we all went to the water park. I had a bunch of stuff to return to Annika and my mom, Annika had a bag of clothes for Elsie and my mom had a bunch of stuff from a friend who is moving that she wanted us to look through. It was hilarious...we are all in this deep purge mindset, and spent the first 10 minutes together passing stuff around to each other!

I have been doing a ton of reading though, and really trying to figure out the solution to paper clutter. And the system for returning things to people. And the process for keeping this house orderly. I am naturally an organized person, but something is missing in my routines for cleaning and correspondence.

I mentioned that I started by reading Fly Lady's 31 baby steps. Those were really helpful and my main take-ways were: 1) get up 30 minutes before everyone else and shower and dress fully with shoes and 2) keep your sink empty and shining. Fly Lady sets up her program with a lot of psychological triggers: if your sink is shining, you're going to want to clear the counter. If your bed is made, you're going to want to pick up the clothes and put them in the hamper. And it works! Annika called to say she had gone 9 days in a row with a clean sink! I deep cleaned my car: cleared everything out, vacuumed every inch, wiped down every surface, and it looks incredible. And guess what? I have been emptying it after every outing because the junk looks so obvious compared to the rest of the spiffed up car. It's a psychological trick that is getting me to toss my trash and take my stuff from the car back into the house every single time. It's remarkable to me.

In a quest for paper organization I came across organizedhome.com and found all sorts of tips on creating a Household Notebook. I read a whole lot of posts on this concept, ran myself to the dollar store and now have a binder that makes my heart sing. It holds it all: info for the babysitter, packing lists for vacation, medical history for the kids, budget worksheets, weekly menu ideas, funny quotes from the kids, schedules, important numbers. It's all there.

It was while compiling my Household Notebook that I stumbled upon 21 posts about being a S.H.E. Which stands for a Sidetrackable Household Executive. I read these posts in two nights and felt lights turn on all over the place. S.H.E.'s were coined by Pam and Peggy, two sisters who had a hard time keeping their houses running smoothly until they came up with this card file system. Have any of you done this?!! Do any of you remember these ladies from the 70's or 80's?

First of all, they are hilarious and I have been watching video clips on youtube ever since. Second of all, I think this is really going to work for me. Because I follow instructions really well. I'm naturally an organized person, but I have never seemed to get the swing of the housework (the actual deep cleaning) schedule and menu planning. And their system was so enlightening for me. I just learned so much. The way they organize their week is really remarkable to me and I cannot wait to try this new approach to my days. (Church Day, Family Day, Deep Clean Day, Desk Day, Errand Day, Moderate Clean Day and Rest Day)

And I'm bringing my sister with me! Annika starts a new full-time job tomorrow morning and she's as eager as I am to figure out how to plan and execute all the hats a mom wears. It's exhausting to always feel behind. Our goal is to feel in control of the house, the groceries, the paper clutter, including the family in the work to be done and feeling good about the tone in which it's all done.

Are you inspired?!! Start reading! These are some fun articles and have me so fired up that I'm printing off all of my most-used recipes and making my own Household Recipe's Binder filled with my top 40 go-to's that I actually go-to. This is going to be good!

(And have you watched that video above. They are hilarious.)

girls golf: year three

We've had a few rounds of Girls Golf this summer, and as always, this is one of my very favorite parts of summertime. It feels so good to have an event on the calendar that is a set playtime just for the mama's. We're outside. We talk through each others drives. We stop stories while we walk to our balls and pick up those stories when we meet up again on the green. And we laugh so hard. I have to figure out the equivalent of Girls Golf for the 9 months in between because it's so good to be active, with friends and without kiddos. (No offense to the kiddos!) Any suggestions?

Lake Pepin overnight

I'm going to write out our itinerary for our 30 hours away because it went so smoothly and definitely should be duplicated. Rory and I are getting to know this area really well which also makes for easy planning, and helps the time away feel like actual vacation. Basically we had a Minnesota day, followed by a Wisconsin day.

We met at the park in Lake City right by the marina at 11:30. I brought a greek salad, grapes and chips and we bought fried chicken at the grocery store across the street. We had our picnic right away and then played at the park. But most exciting was Ivar getting to use the remote control car he got from Papa a few Christmas' ago. We had hid it in the laundry room until he was old enough not to break it and I found it while painting the laundry room. Turns out 5 1/2 years old is the perfect remote control car age. (Later Ivar told us this was his very favorite part of the weekend...driving his car in that parking lot.)

After a while we loaded up and drove to Kellogg, where we visited Lark Toys and rode the hand-carved carousel. And Mimi showed us all her very impressive hula-hoop skills. She's really, really good!
And we all got ice cream at Lark Toys too. But then Hattie was ready for her nap, so we drove back to the AmericInn in Wabasha and checked in so that Hattie could sleep. While she slept, Papa and I took Ivar and Elsie swimming at the hotel pool.

A bit before 4:00 we drove to the National Eagle Center. We spent a little over an hour there (it closed at 5) and then walked along the river and scoped out Fun 'n the Sun Family Houseboats for a future family vacation. Rory's family had a houseboat in this area for part of Rory's childhood so they know the river really well. We thought it would be so fun to bring the whole clan for a few nights next summer to play on the river all together. We ate at a restaurant in Wabasha and watched big ships go by. And then Ivar got a fever and said he wanted to go to bed! So we turned in really early. But Madison went back and found a great jazz band concert under the bridge and enjoyed the evening for all of us.
The next morning we ate our breakfast at the hotel and I must say this is a handy part of traveling all together. Rory and his dad were able to take the kids to breakfast while Marlene and I got ready and packed up the rooms. I loved the extra kid help! We visited the Anderson House Bed and Breakfast and then drove across the bridge to Wisconsin. My kids were thrilled to be entering another state! Ha!

We drove right to Pepin and found Laura and Mary's Little House in the Big Woods. Elsie and Hattie wore their bonnets with pride and we took lots of pictures. 

On our way back we stopped at the Country Stop, ate lunch at The Pickle Factory in Pepin and then went over to the beach in Pepin to skip rocks, or as Elsie showed us, sit right in the water with clothes on. The weather was spectacular and the white sail boats were beautiful on the blue water. 
We got Elsie changed and then drove to Nelson to the Creamery for ice cream cones. We sat on their back patio and decided we'd like to come back for lunch sometime. And then we parted ways and drove back home. It really was incredible how much we packed into 29 hours...which included the drive time! If you're looking for a little summer fun to squeeze in, I can't recommend this trip enough. We are hopeful to head back in that area this fall for another visit to the mighty Mississippi. 

30 hour vacation

We spent Friday night in Wabasha with Rory's folks for a little summer getaway. And it was awesome. It felt like a quality vacation and we still can't quite figure out how we fit so much in and how it felt so restorative. I'll give a full rundown in the next post, but for now I just want to say that I need to remember that a simple overnight is totally worth it. I think I may have believed that I'd need more than one night for a getaway to feel worthwhile, but this one felt great. We played hard and I came home feeling sad that it was over, but tired enough that I was glad to be home.

And we got to see Laura and Mary's Little House in the Big Woods. Which was very exciting for Ivar and Elsie who are very big fans of Laura and Mary.